Lately, I’ve been exploring my personal sense of self more and more—finding great joy in choosing to accept myself for who I am as opposed to chastising myself for not being more like someone else I scroll past on Instagram. I think being in our twenties is such a beautiful chapter in the book of our lives that many of us will think back on fondly. But let’s not sugar coat the fact that coming into yourself and finding the courage to lean into who you are instead of running from it can be really hard.
I’ve painted this picture of myself to be a dreaming and driven goal-setting career girl. I want to do big things, but sometimes I worry I’m just talking the blog-post-talk, and not necessarily walking the real-life-take-action walk.
A good friend of mine and reader of the blog (if not only because she has to because she gets all the early versions to proofread and edit against her will) recently told me after reading a post that she gets excited hearing about my big goals but wishes I shared more about what those goals were. I was invigorated when I heard this, but then felt instantly deflated once I remembered that I don’t exactly know where I want to be and subsequently—how I plan on getting there. How can I write the weird, fuzzy ideas that are scattered around in my mind onto paper?
Nonetheless, this little motivational reminder sort of stuck with me over the next few weeks and through some other conversations with friends and late-night dream sessions I decided to actively manifest into the world what my heart is so deeply longing for. I’m a big proponent of manifesting your destiny. I think that though there are so many things in our lives that are out of our control, there’s no denying how much power our minds hold over us. Whether it’s the way we talk to ourselves when we look in the mirror or if we actually allow our imagination to run completely wild—it’s important to speak your truths not just to yourself, but also to those around you.
Though most days my dreams are accompanied by a professional and put-together looking Alexis who started her own business, lately I’ve been trying to scale it down juuuust a bit—if only so I can have something a tad more actionable to do other than getting business cards printed with CEO next to my name and a big blank space where “business name” goes. Ya feel me?
I thought I’d share with you the 4 things that have been on my dream list lately. Perhaps you share a similar dream on this list or something new will call to you. Maybe you’ve been meaning to sit down and write out your dreams and goals too. Whatever it is, find something you’re passionate about and manifest the life of your dreams! Here’s my stab at doing just that:
1. Build a community
I think no matter what you want to do with your life, you have to build your tribe first. Of course, you need your family and your closest girlfriends who you can call up at any moment in time for any reason at all, but you also need a community of people who will be there for you during any professional or personal endeavor. For me, most of my lifelong girlfriends live out of the state, so grabbing Sunday morning coffee with my childhood best friends isn’t really an option. We can’t have weekly girls wine nights and we often have to resort to Facetime to catch up on the latest happenings as opposed to grabbing a bite to eat. Nonetheless, I’ve been so blessed to meet some really amazing women throughout this past year in Des Moines. I truly believe that you are who you surround yourself with, and if I’m able to have just a sliver of the drive, motivation, and courage that my friends here in Des Moines have, I’ll be on to big things.
My friend Tori, from Sweet Stories by Tori, and I started a morning coffee group called Mugs and Mornings a few months ago and it makes my heart so incredibly happy. Not only do we get to start the first Tuesday of every month gathered around the coffee table, sipping lattes and sharing dreams, but we also get to grow alongside one another as we’re all trying to navigate our way though careers, relationships, financial woes, and self discovery. Meeting with these inspiring women fills up my cup… literally and figuratively. If you’re feeling uninspired or unmotivated, I suggest you find a networking group of positive and uplifting women within your community to surround yourself with. Having trouble finding one? Do what Tori and I did, and start your own!
2. Start a podcast
I’m a podcast brat, to say the least. I listen to them all day long at work, while I’m driving in the car, while I’m cooking, and everything in between. I get my news updates from pods, my wellness inspiration from some of my favorite LA girls, career inspo from the best of the best, and my celebrity fixes from a few others—not to mention some true crime because who doesn’t love an unsolved murder mystery during the workday? This is a recent addition to my dreams list, but perhaps the one I’m most excited about at the current moment. Another conversation with a friend and some gentle nudging from Bobby has led me on this quest to start a podcast of my very own. I’m still fine-tuning what this would look like for me, not only just how it would feel and sound but also how I’d be able to realistically make it fit into my schedule of working full time, being a dog mom, and still making it to yoga 3 times a week. When I commit to something, I’m all in—so I’m still sorting through the details. I’m so scared and nervous and a little unsure… but my annoying little voice could be coming to some earbuds near you! And some other cool voices, of course. Stay tuned!
3. Create an event
My first job out of college was such a blast. I worked as a marketing manager for a food delivery service and had complete creative control over the wild and often “punny” events we’d throw on campus. We’d hand out pizzas in lecture halls for National Cheese Pizza day, we’d serve branded ice cream treats out of ice cream trucks, and even got a giant sheet cake to celebrate my local market launch anniversary. I miss that campaign building so much, and even all the tedious and stressful components of putting together an event.
Lately, I’ve been mulling over the idea to combine that passion of mine with a few other passions: spirituality, wellness, and women empowerment. A lot of the podcasts I listen to and influencers I follow on Instagram have such awesome opportunities to be a part of events in Los Angeles or NYC that bring inspiring panels of people together to speak about topics that you wouldn’t find at your average chamber of commerce networking event. They’re accompanied by a candlelit yoga practice and relaxing meditation, with green smoothies and wellness workshops to boot. Why can’t we have something cool like that in Des Moines or Davenport or Iowa City?
I think my entrepreneurial mindset is manifesting itself while I’m writing this blog post but my new mantra is,
“If you can’t find what you want when & where you want it, create it yourself.”
4. Write a book
Ultimate dream, ultimate goal—forever the first item on my life’s to-do list. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a manuscript already secretly living on my computer along with a laundry list of name possibilities and artistic design ideas. That being said, I also don’t feel quite ready to fully pursue this dream. Yet. A book is so… permanent! And let’s not deny the fact that it’s also a LOT of work. I want my book to be real and authentic, but not rushed. I think the Alexis who will write her first book will have a few more life experiences under her belt, and *hopefully* a bit more knowledge to share. Fingers crossed on that part. I’m enjoying this time of getting closer to becoming her, but I feel that these are the moments that are going to write themselves. So I’ll just sit back, live my life, and keep designing the book cover in all it’s pink glory.
Whew! So there’s my dream list. My current hopes and goals and ideas that are constantly stirring up excitement in my mind and my heart. It’s so nerve racking for me to share these things because the inevitable idea of “what if I never achieve any of this” obviously creeps up into my thoughts.
But today, I’m choosing to celebrate my drive and my dreams. Maybe none of these things will actually come to fruition. But ya know… maybe they all will. None of us truly know what God has in store for us, but I can at least put out into the universe what I’m working everyday to achieve. That’s gotta give me some sort of head start… right?! Here’s to hoping!
What are YOU manifesting right now? Write those dreams down and tell them to your family, your friends, your mentor, your significant other. Together, let’s make this world better than when we entered it. There’s never going to be a good time to start, so why not just go for it?